One of the reasons I enjoy knitting so much is related to it's predictability. You sit down to a pattern, you use your experience and knowledge to select a fiber, you follow the instructions... And you usually get an expected result.
This process can't be used with people, with relationships. People are so much more complex than even the most tricksy lace or fair isle patterns.
Sometimes it is comforting to retreat to the reliability of instructions. Rather than face the convolutions of personal change--the difficult emotions, the mountain of tasks leading toward one's dream--it might be easier to hide out in more orderly territory.
In other news, studying is not progressing as I'd like, but my hoodie is almost done.